stfusexists:

thedinosaurprince:

fuckingrapeculture:

signifierofmalepower:

My picks from #safetytipsforladies on Twitter.

brilliant

ALWAYS REBLOG.

Did I blog this? Well, no matter, it’s amazing. 

"If owning a gun and knowing how to use it worked, the military would be the safest place for a woman. It’s not.

If women covering up their bodies worked, Afghanistan would have a lower rate of sexual assault than Polynesia. It doesn’t.

If not drinking alcohol worked, children would not be raped. They are.

If your advice to a woman to avoid rape is to be the most modestly dressed, soberest and first to go home, you may as well add “so the rapist will choose someone else”.

If your response to hearing a woman has been raped is “she didn’t have to go to that bar/nightclub/party” you are saying that you want bars, nightclubs and parties to have no women in them. Unless you want the women to show up, but wear kaftans and drink orange juice. Good luck selling either of those options to your friends.

Or you could just be honest and say that you don’t want less rape, you want (even) less prosecution of rapists."

A Short Post on Rape Prevention (via brute-reason)

Exactly.

Be honest: You don’t give a shit about rape victims.

You don’t fucking care.

You make excuses for the rapists all the damn time.

This is about policing women’s bodies and telling them to just ‘shut up and stop complaining about your rape because you deserved it’

(via sourcedumal)

rebekahloves:

folkandfemme:

aynrandinaminiskirt:

Korean poster which has been making it’s way around
Translation:
Protesting sexual harassment and violence against women
ETIQUETTE FOR MEN AT NIGHT
Remember that your presence can be threatening to women walking alone at night
If a woman is walking in front of you alone at night, slow down. You walking quickly or speeding up can be and in most cases is threatening
If you’ve been drinking and are drunk, go straight home.
Do not pick a fight or aggravate women walking at night
Do not take off your clothes or publicly urinate
Be careful to make sure you do not touch or hit someone, even on accident.
If, late at night, you come to a situation in which you and a woman have to ride an elevator together, let her go up first and wait for the elevator to come back down.
If there’s a woman in a public restroom (There are Korean public restrooms with no gender or sex markings that are open to all people), wait for her to finish and come out first before using the restroom.
Report broken streetlights to the police
Tell other men about these rules and that they have a responsibility to not threaten women walking at night

reprinting, pasting around earth

in like 5th grade they need to start teaching this shit in the US, along with a class on “Girls Don’t Call each Other Sluts and Whores. It Just Makes it Okay For Guys to Call You Sluts and Whores.”  But no, really.

rebekahloves:

folkandfemme:

aynrandinaminiskirt:

Korean poster which has been making it’s way around

Translation:

Protesting sexual harassment and violence against women

ETIQUETTE FOR MEN AT NIGHT

  1. Remember that your presence can be threatening to women walking alone at night
  2. If a woman is walking in front of you alone at night, slow down. You walking quickly or speeding up can be and in most cases is threatening
  3. If you’ve been drinking and are drunk, go straight home.
  4. Do not pick a fight or aggravate women walking at night
  5. Do not take off your clothes or publicly urinate
  6. Be careful to make sure you do not touch or hit someone, even on accident.
  7. If, late at night, you come to a situation in which you and a woman have to ride an elevator together, let her go up first and wait for the elevator to come back down.
  8. If there’s a woman in a public restroom (There are Korean public restrooms with no gender or sex markings that are open to all people), wait for her to finish and come out first before using the restroom.
  9. Report broken streetlights to the police
  10. Tell other men about these rules and that they have a responsibility to not threaten women walking at night

reprinting, pasting around earth

in like 5th grade they need to start teaching this shit in the US, along with a class on “Girls Don’t Call each Other Sluts and Whores. It Just Makes it Okay For Guys to Call You Sluts and Whores.”  But no, really.

"

The following day, I attended a workshop about preventing gender violence, facilitated by Katz. There, he posed a question to all of the men in the room: “Men, what things do you do to protect yourself from being raped or sexually assaulted?”

Not one man, including myself, could quickly answer the question. Finally, one man raised his hand and said, “Nothing.” Then Katz asked the women, “What things do you do to protect yourself from being raped or sexually assaulted?” Nearly all of the women in the room raised their hand. One by one, each woman testified:

“I don’t make eye contact with men when I walk down the street,” said one.
“I don’t put my drink down at parties,” said another.
“I use the buddy system when I go to parties.”
“I cross the street when I see a group of guys walking in my direction.”
“I use my keys as a potential weapon.”

The women went on for several minutes, until their side of the blackboard was completely filled with responses. The men’s side of the blackboard was blank. I was stunned. I had never heard a group of women say these things before. I thought about all of the women in my life — including my mother, sister and girlfriend — and realized that I had a lot to learn about gender.

"
"He [Rick Santorum] is a staunch opponent of abortion, even in the case of rape. Even in the case of rape, telling CNN recently that a woman, in that case, should, and I quote, ‘make the best out of a bad situation, and accept the gift from God.’ Wow. I think women should say the same thing to Santorum, Andy, after from now until the end of his weaselly life, they see him in the street and kick him in the fucking balls. ‘Please accept this gift from God, Rick, this pointed-shoed gift to your plums. Why are you rolling around on the ground crying, Rick? Please make the best out of this bad situation. In fact, rejoice, because I believe another lady is coming over to gift you with another high-velocity nut shot. Praise be, Rick! God is graciously raining gifts into your groinal area, you fucking douche.’"

John Oliver on Rick Santorum, The Bugle 183 (via sixpencesoulcake)

Too funny not to reblog

"All that crap you hear on TV about communication and expressing feelings is a lie.No one really cares what you have to say.
I wonder how long it would take for anyone to notice if I just stopped talking.”

"All that crap you hear on TV about communication and expressing feelings is a lie.
No one really cares what you have to say.

I wonder how long it would take for anyone to notice if I just stopped talking.”

downlo:

A useful rape analogy

downlo:

A useful rape analogy

internerd:

Cop Rapes Woman at Gunpoint, 11-Year-Old Rape Victim Smeared, Accuser Sued for $2 Million: Is US Society Failing Victims?
If events of the last few months have sent any sort of message to women in America it’s this: if you’re raped or sexually assaulted, justice won’t be on your side.
What happens when the people who are supposed to protect you are the rapists themselves—such as in NY, when cops on separate occasions have been accused of committing rape? What happens when the press and public spend as much time parsing a victim’s history and “character“ than the person accused of brutally assaulting her (like the New York Post calling Dominique Strauss-Khan’s accuser a “hooker”)? What conclusion can we draw when a rape victim’s attempt to confront a powerful entity is publicly acknowledged as futile?
Women can’t win. The structures, institutions and organizations supposed to help rape victims are often simply tools of a social attitude that blames them for the crimes committed against them.
This week brought the collapse of the Dominique Strauss-Khan case amid a nasty, frequently racist and sexist media frenzy. Then, on the very same day, came the absurd announcement from KBR that it was seeking repayment of legal fees from Jamie Lee Jones, who had lost her rape case in front of a jury. Jones had accused her colleagues of raping her and the company of trying to cover it up (while the verdict reflected problems with her case, it went to a jury and was given a serious day in court).
In May, two New York cops, who were caught on video repeatedly returning to the home of an intoxicated woman to rape her, were acquitted. Jurors said it was mostly because the victim was drunk. (The two men, who have both been fired from the NYPD, were convicted of “official misconduct” and received sentences of one year and two months, respectively.)
And then just this week, an off-duty police officer was arrested for allegedly raping a woman at gunpoint in broad daylight, abusing his authority in the grossest way.
Meanwhile, these cases take place outside the mainstream media spotlight. AlterNet noted the recent story out of Springfield, MO, about the young girl whose school utterly failed her after she reported her rape to authorities, instead humiliating her and sending her back to be victimized again, violently, by the boy she initially accused (he later confessed to the second crime). The school continued to deny wrongdoing and doled out punishment instead of remediation for the traumatized young woman.
That’s just this summer. Earlier in 2011 the women who accused Julian Assange of rape were tarred as CIA plants by even such progressive luminaries as Michael Moore and Naomi Wolf. Lara Logan, after being brutally raped in Egypt, had to face a firestorm of questions about whether women reporters belong in dangerous situations. An 11-year-old girl in Texas, who was caught on video being gang-raped by 14 men and boys in an abandoned house, had to face media scrutiny when a New York Times reporter reported accusations by townspeople about the clothes she wore and her mannerisms. And the Republicans kicked off the year by repeatedly trying to sneak a new definition of rape onto the books.
Yes, it’s been a miserable year so far, and reading the comments sections on Internet stories about any of these incidents is likely to make anyone sympathetic to victims feel sick to his or her stomach.
This rather sweeping conclusion isn’t meant to pick apart the legal details of any specific case—there’s plenty of both astute and idiotic commentary taking place in the media—but rather to talk about the climate these cases create for victims, and the way these incidents, and how authorities handle them, both perpetuate and reflect rape culture.
But first, what exactly is a rape culture, anyway? Personally, I always think of rape culture as all the assumptions that come from society’s assuming sex is a transaction involving men taking what women have to offer—but not offer too enthusiastically, lest they be deemed promiscuous—thereby creating a Catch-22 (and ignoring violence that falls outside the gender stereotype boundaries).
Toward the beginning of a long and comprehensive post on rape culture, Shakesville’s Melissa McEwan says this, which sums up the anti-rape message of the burgeoning anti-rape “Slutwalk” movement, itself a reaction to a policeman urging women not to dress like sluts to avoid rape:
Rape culture is refusing to acknowledge that the only thing that the victim of every rapist shares in common is bad fucking luck. Rape culture is refusing to acknowledge that the only thing a person can do to avoid being raped is never be in the same room as a rapist. Rape culture is avoiding talking about what an absurdly unreasonable expectation that is, since rapists don’t announce themselves or wear signs or glow purple.
This massive spate of 2011 rape cases and controversies in their wide scope and variety, and the inevitably depressing results, are a perfect illustration of the cultural problem writ large.
Let’s start with two examples from the winter and spring which are in fact on the opposite ends of what the media sees as a “rape spectrum.”
First, you have Julian Assange, a powerful man accused of “acquaintance rape,” based on two women’s accounts. One involved a forcible sexual encounter that began as a consensual one, and another involved penetrating a woman while she was asleep. Both women were sophisticated professionals who knew Assange, and both were alone with him when the alleged assaults took place.
Both women were blamed, smeared and their identities revealed online, accused of being part of a supposed worldwide conspiracy to bring Assange down (just as the press has insinuated that DSK’s accuser, Nafissatou Diallo, was an unlikely pawn of a conspiracy to silence Strauss-Khan).
Second, we have the Texas gang-rape case, in which a large group of boys and men were caught on video brutally and repeatedly gang-raping a young girl. In this case, there was physical corroborating evidence, the victim was too young to legally consent, and the accused were relatively powerless men in a poor community. 
The cases couldn’t have been more different, and yet in this case also, the young woman was smeared when prominent newspaper stories fixated on her appearance, her dress, and her behavior rather than the demeanor and histories of the men involved.
So the lesson is clear: if you report an unexciting rape that happened in your home while you were alone with the perpetrator, you get blamed. If you are recorded on video being repeatedly raped by a massive number of people, you also get blamed. If you’re a grown woman: blamed. If you’re a child: blamed. If it’s your word: blamed. If there’s physical evidence: blamed. 
And that mentality extends to the jury: read this heartbreaking piece by one of the jurors in the “rape-cop” case who was sympathetic to the victim but wouldn’t convict because of her intoxicated state. “There were holes in her story, again because of blacking out and-or passing out,” the juror said. 
Is it any wonder, then, that it’s next to impossible to get clear and decisive justice for these crimes in a system that is tainted by social attitudes toward rape? In cases like this one, Jamie Leigh Jones and Diallo, it may be that well-intentioned people have been simply unable to use the law to the advantage of redressing victims’ wrongs.
And is it any wonder that some real victims, when questioned about an assault, might embellish or shade their accounts (both Leigh Jones and Nafissatou Diallo have been accused of doing this) in the fruitless effort to be a “better” victim, to not be blamed for something that was done to them?
That’s the other essence of rape culture, which was distilled so memorably by Amanda Hess; it confuses women, too:

Rape culture does not just encourage men to proceed after she says “no.” Rape culture does not simply teach men that a lack of physical resistance is an invitation. Rape culture does not only tell men to assert ownership over whichever female body they desire. Rape culture also tells women not to claim ownership over their own bodies. Rape culture also informs women that they should not desire sex. Rape culture also tells women that saying yes makes them bad women.
Both rape and rape accusations are products of the roles assigned by rape culture. In the traditional seduction scenario, a woman is expected to not desire to have sex, and to only submit after the man has successfully coerced her into submission. When the preferred model for consensual sex looks a hell of a lot like rape, an array of fucked-up scenarios are inevitable: the woman never wanted to fuck the guy, refuses to submit, and is raped; the woman submits to the man’s coercion in order to avoid other negative consequences (like being raped); the woman had desired the sex all along, but must defend her femininity by saying that she had been coerced into sex. Thankfully, a good deal of modern men and women reject these antiquated ideas, but they’re far from being banished from the sexual landscape.  

The landscape may seem somewhat bleak at the moment, but there’s hope in the grassroots movements for media justice and for countering the rape-culture narrative that have sprung up this year.
Online activism like a petition demanding the Post retract its nasty characterization of Diallo and a similar campaign directed at the Times’ rape coverage are beginning to hold the media accountable for the lens they hold to victims.
And Slutwalk, whose message is encapsulated by the idea that nothing causes rape except a rapist and a lack of consent, is creating a powerful and conversation-starting counter-narrative to these high-profile defeats.
Where justice and authority let victims down, solidarity, activism, and a massive effort to create awareness will have to fill the breach. 
Sarah Seltzer is an associate editor at AlterNet, a staff writer at RH Reality Check and a freelance writer based in New York City. Her work has been published in Jezebel.com and on the websites of the Nation, the Christian Science Monitor and the Wall Street Journal. Find her at sarahmseltzer.com.
(via Cop Rapes Woman at Gunpoint, 11-Year-Old Rape Victim Smeared, Accuser Sued for $2 Million: Is US Society Failing Victims? | | AlterNet)

internerd:

Cop Rapes Woman at Gunpoint, 11-Year-Old Rape Victim Smeared, Accuser Sued for $2 Million: Is US Society Failing Victims?

If events of the last few months have sent any sort of message to women in America it’s this: if you’re raped or sexually assaulted, justice won’t be on your side.

What happens when the people who are supposed to protect you are the rapists themselves—such as in NY, when cops on separate occasions have been accused of committing rape? What happens when the press and public spend as much time parsing a victim’s history and “character“ than the person accused of brutally assaulting her (like the New York Post calling Dominique Strauss-Khan’s accuser a “hooker”)? What conclusion can we draw when a rape victim’s attempt to confront a powerful entity is publicly acknowledged as futile?

Women can’t win. The structures, institutions and organizations supposed to help rape victims are often simply tools of a social attitude that blames them for the crimes committed against them.

This week brought the collapse of the Dominique Strauss-Khan case amid a nasty, frequently racist and sexist media frenzy. Then, on the very same day, came the absurd announcement from KBR that it was seeking repayment of legal fees from Jamie Lee Jones, who had lost her rape case in front of a jury. Jones had accused her colleagues of raping her and the company of trying to cover it up (while the verdict reflected problems with her case, it went to a jury and was given a serious day in court).

In May, two New York cops, who were caught on video repeatedly returning to the home of an intoxicated woman to rape her, were acquitted. Jurors said it was mostly because the victim was drunk. (The two men, who have both been fired from the NYPD, were convicted of “official misconduct” and received sentences of one year and two months, respectively.)

And then just this week, an off-duty police officer was arrested for allegedly raping a woman at gunpoint in broad daylight, abusing his authority in the grossest way.

Meanwhile, these cases take place outside the mainstream media spotlight. AlterNet noted the recent story out of Springfield, MO, about the young girl whose school utterly failed her after she reported her rape to authorities, instead humiliating her and sending her back to be victimized againviolently, by the boy she initially accused (he later confessed to the second crime). The school continued to deny wrongdoing and doled out punishment instead of remediation for the traumatized young woman.

That’s just this summer. Earlier in 2011 the women who accused Julian Assange of rape were tarred as CIA plants by even such progressive luminaries as Michael Moore and Naomi Wolf. Lara Logan, after being brutally raped in Egypt, had to face a firestorm of questions about whether women reporters belong in dangerous situations. An 11-year-old girl in Texas, who was caught on video being gang-raped by 14 men and boys in an abandoned house, had to face media scrutiny when a New York Times reporter reported accusations by townspeople about the clothes she wore and her mannerisms. And the Republicans kicked off the year by repeatedly trying to sneak a new definition of rape onto the books.

Yes, it’s been a miserable year so far, and reading the comments sections on Internet stories about any of these incidents is likely to make anyone sympathetic to victims feel sick to his or her stomach.

This rather sweeping conclusion isn’t meant to pick apart the legal details of any specific case—there’s plenty of both astute and idiotic commentary taking place in the media—but rather to talk about the climate these cases create for victims, and the way these incidents, and how authorities handle them, both perpetuate and reflect rape culture.

But first, what exactly is a rape culture, anyway? Personally, I always think of rape culture as all the assumptions that come from society’s assuming sex is a transaction involving men taking what women have to offer—but not offer too enthusiastically, lest they be deemed promiscuous—thereby creating a Catch-22 (and ignoring violence that falls outside the gender stereotype boundaries).

Toward the beginning of a long and comprehensive post on rape culture, Shakesville’s Melissa McEwan says this, which sums up the anti-rape message of the burgeoning anti-rape “Slutwalk” movement, itself a reaction to a policeman urging women not to dress like sluts to avoid rape:

Rape culture is refusing to acknowledge that the only thing that the victim of every rapist shares in common is bad fucking luck. Rape culture is refusing to acknowledge that the only thing a person can do to avoid being raped is never be in the same room as a rapist. Rape culture is avoiding talking about what an absurdly unreasonable expectation that is, since rapists don’t announce themselves or wear signs or glow purple.

This massive spate of 2011 rape cases and controversies in their wide scope and variety, and the inevitably depressing results, are a perfect illustration of the cultural problem writ large.

Let’s start with two examples from the winter and spring which are in fact on the opposite ends of what the media sees as a “rape spectrum.”

First, you have Julian Assange, a powerful man accused of “acquaintance rape,” based on two women’s accounts. One involved a forcible sexual encounter that began as a consensual one, and another involved penetrating a woman while she was asleep. Both women were sophisticated professionals who knew Assange, and both were alone with him when the alleged assaults took place.

Both women were blamed, smeared and their identities revealed online, accused of being part of a supposed worldwide conspiracy to bring Assange down (just as the press has insinuated that DSK’s accuser, Nafissatou Diallo, was an unlikely pawn of a conspiracy to silence Strauss-Khan).

Second, we have the Texas gang-rape case, in which a large group of boys and men were caught on video brutally and repeatedly gang-raping a young girl. In this case, there was physical corroborating evidence, the victim was too young to legally consent, and the accused were relatively powerless men in a poor community. 

The cases couldn’t have been more different, and yet in this case also, the young woman was smeared when prominent newspaper stories fixated on her appearance, her dress, and her behavior rather than the demeanor and histories of the men involved.

So the lesson is clear: if you report an unexciting rape that happened in your home while you were alone with the perpetrator, you get blamed. If you are recorded on video being repeatedly raped by a massive number of people, you also get blamed. If you’re a grown woman: blamed. If you’re a child: blamed. If it’s your word: blamed. If there’s physical evidence: blamed. 

And that mentality extends to the jury: read this heartbreaking piece by one of the jurors in the “rape-cop” case who was sympathetic to the victim but wouldn’t convict because of her intoxicated state. “There were holes in her story, again because of blacking out and-or passing out,” the juror said. 

Is it any wonder, then, that it’s next to impossible to get clear and decisive justice for these crimes in a system that is tainted by social attitudes toward rape? In cases like this one, Jamie Leigh Jones and Diallo, it may be that well-intentioned people have been simply unable to use the law to the advantage of redressing victims’ wrongs.

And is it any wonder that some real victims, when questioned about an assault, might embellish or shade their accounts (both Leigh Jones and Nafissatou Diallo have been accused of doing this) in the fruitless effort to be a “better” victim, to not be blamed for something that was done to them?

That’s the other essence of rape culture, which was distilled so memorably by Amanda Hess; it confuses women, too:

Rape culture does not just encourage men to proceed after she says “no.” Rape culture does not simply teach men that a lack of physical resistance is an invitation. Rape culture does not only tell men to assert ownership over whichever female body they desire. Rape culture also tells women not to claim ownership over their own bodies. Rape culture also informs women that they should not desire sex. Rape culture also tells women that saying yes makes them bad women.

Both rape and rape accusations are products of the roles assigned by rape culture. In the traditional seduction scenario, a woman is expected to not desire to have sex, and to only submit after the man has successfully coerced her into submission. When the preferred model for consensual sex looks a hell of a lot like rape, an array of fucked-up scenarios are inevitable: the woman never wanted to fuck the guy, refuses to submit, and is raped; the woman submits to the man’s coercion in order to avoid other negative consequences (like being raped); the woman had desired the sex all along, but must defend her femininity by saying that she had been coerced into sex. Thankfully, a good deal of modern men and women reject these antiquated ideas, but they’re far from being banished from the sexual landscape.  

The landscape may seem somewhat bleak at the moment, but there’s hope in the grassroots movements for media justice and for countering the rape-culture narrative that have sprung up this year.

Online activism like a petition demanding the Post retract its nasty characterization of Diallo and a similar campaign directed at the Times’ rape coverage are beginning to hold the media accountable for the lens they hold to victims.

And Slutwalk, whose message is encapsulated by the idea that nothing causes rape except a rapist and a lack of consent, is creating a powerful and conversation-starting counter-narrative to these high-profile defeats.

Where justice and authority let victims down, solidarity, activism, and a massive effort to create awareness will have to fill the breach. 

Sarah Seltzer is an associate editor at AlterNet, a staff writer at RH Reality Check and a freelance writer based in New York City. Her work has been published in Jezebel.com and on the websites of the Nation, the Christian Science Monitor and the Wall Street Journal. Find her at sarahmseltzer.com.

(via Cop Rapes Woman at Gunpoint, 11-Year-Old Rape Victim Smeared, Accuser Sued for $2 Million: Is US Society Failing Victims? | | AlterNet)